The new year is around the corner and so are New Year’s resolutions. Have you made your resolutions yet? Before you put pen to paper I would recommend taking a different approach this year: Find your truth. You don’t have to search far, just look in the mirror.
A simple tool to find your truth is Same as, More of, Less of. Write these words as headings on a page and commit to them for 2013. What would you like to do the same (be a caring coach)? What would you like to do more (exercise 15 minutes more every day)? And what would you like to do less (hold on to family grudges)?
Traditional New Year’s resolutions are about to-do goals like eat healthy, lose weight or learn Spanish. This year, think about resolutions that are about to-be goals like be a more engaged parent, be a better friend or be patient.
While making resolutions is easy, it is much more difficult to stick to them. So share your truth with someone who can help you stay accountable for your goals. And if you don’t have a trusted confidant in your life to keep you truthful and away from negative patterns, finding one should be at the top of your resolutions
I have a group of “truth tellers” that I trust and have been a part of my life for nearly 30 years. I trust to get the truth from my accountability group, and they know I speak the truth to them. Truth is at the core of our relationship and why it has endured for so long.
So this holiday season I encourage you to look back at the year and reflect on your truth. And as you spend time celebrating the season with family, friends and colleagues, think about who speaks the truth to you. Who can you ask to hold you accountable?
Having an accountability group has been one of the best gifts in my life. And in this season of giving, I hope you give yourself this priceless gift as well. Leave a comment or share with me on Facebook.